Relationships

Everyone has a different opinion on what defines a great relationship. As in all aspects of our life’s it is our perception of what we define the term “great relationship”. Here is the founders belief on what makes a relationship strong and gives it longevity…

Relationships should be built upon a solid underlining friendship, where by the needs of all parties are met. They require commitment from all parties to make them successful. Too many people get into relationships for the wrong reason, while for other it is simply bad timing. There are those who are afraid of being alone while for other’s it is more a case of convenience.

Relationships should be about compromising, being able to resolve the conflicts that arise and giving each other the freedom to be who we truly are, but most of all respecting each other for our beliefs. At times we may not agree on certain aspects in our lives so we need to learn how to compromise. We need to be able to listen, respect each other and find a solution that works best for each other and the relationship as a whole.

Relationships are friendships and friendships are built upon honesty, sincerity, trustworthiness and respect. We are all accountable for the relationships we are in and therefore need to take responsibility for their out comings. We are only victims of circumstance if we choose to be. Be yourself, take responsibility for your actions and relationships will move forward. Be that relationship with yourself or someone else.

When problems arise within our relationships, you will not solve them by going outside of that relationship. Neither will you solve any of these issues by trying to mould your partner into a clone of yourself. Men and Women are wired differently. Recognize that a relationship is far more enjoyable when you’re with someone who enriches your life, not simply reflects it. Appreciate your differences. Learn to let go of the notion that falling in love means finding someone who will be responsible for your happiness. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness.

The past is something that a lot of people cannot move on from and therefore creates tension in relationships. In order for any relationship to progress we need to learn to let go of the past. Everyone has a history in some manner and letting go of the past is critical if there is to be a future. We cannot change the past, be that our own or that of our partners. What we can do is live in the present and plan for the future. Here are a few tips in how to let go of the past:

1. Do you really believe you have the right to judge your partners past… NO!
2. Remember that your partner wasn’t born the day you met them… We all have a past!
3. It is your choice to move on and not live in the past… Not your partners!
4. Honestly, what does focusing on the past truly do… It negatively effects your own life!

“If you fall for someone then it is because everything from their past has made them into the person you fell for. Without that past they wouldn’t be that person. Live for today, create your future together, and don’t live in the past”.

Relationships are about people bringing lives together. Sharing in each others emotions, dreams, and respecting one another for who they truly are. It takes both people within a relationship to make it work, but only one to end it. Your number one priority in life is you. Have pride in yourself to know that you can continue on your own, that the world will continue to go on, and that you have enough self-respect to let go of someone who may no longer wish to be with you. They have made their choice and you must make the choice to move on. It is better to be happy alone that sad with someone else.

Here are three simple questions to ask yourself, but remember to be COMPLETELY HONEST with yourself. Don’t try and justify ill truths to make yourself be right. Be honest…

1. Is this truly the RIGHT PERSON for me?
Ask yourself why this person is right for you.
2. Am I getting into the relationship or staying in it for the RIGHT REASONS?
You shouldn’t be in relationships if you are not willing to work at them, if you are lonely or looking for a replacement.
3. Is this the RIGHT TIME in my life?
Are you at the right time in your life to give all to the relationship based upon the needs of the people involved. Have you and your partner got the same goals for defining the relationship?, the same time lines etc?.

RIGHT PERSON, for the RIGHT REASON, at the RIGHT TIME.